Summer eight strokes to reduce the fire away from anxiety
First, when you are angry, first ask yourself, “Is this qi should not be born?”
銆€銆€Some people have specially studied the anger, and it is surprising that some people often get angry, most of them are not angry.
The following may be a few words: 1. Others “offended” you unintentionally or in the case of a last resort.
If you are hit on the road, the bus is stepping on, the waiter misses your clothes when the hotel is adjacent, and twists your clothes.
These are all things that should not be born.
銆€銆€2, something unusual or abnormal.
銆€銆€If a person is sick or mentally unsound, or after drinking, or when he is extremely angry, his words and deeds are easy to be abnormal, and he often “speaks badly” to harm others’ self-esteem or harm others.
銆€銆€3, insignificant, trivial things.
銆€銆€If you buy a few fruits, the lover burns the meal, the child misses the broken thing, etc. These things are not worthy of being angry.
If you are angry with these little things, you should calmly admit your shortcomings: the amount is too small.
銆€銆€4, rumors, rumors, gossip, do not have to listen to it, can not be credulous to hear, and should not be angry with it.
銆€銆€First of all, rumors must be calm and consider, what kind of motivation is the person who spreads the gossip to you?
Does he have a relationship with the defendant?
How big is the quality?
Besides, the emperor still has three voices behind him. Even if he is talked about a few words in the back, what is the big deal.
To be angry with it is purely “to punish yourself with the mistakes of others.” It is silly, not for the wise.
銆€銆€All of the above are gases that should not be born.
If everyone carefully thinks about the above classifications at the beginning of their anger, they will find that most of them are not angry, so the gas will naturally disappear quickly.
銆€銆€Second, angry for no more than 3 minutes, someone put forward a good suggestion, angry for no more than 3 minutes.
The sooner you get out of gas, the sooner the better.
Of course, it is easier said than done. It is not easy to do.
Because when people are angry, the gas rises, the mind becomes narrow, and the horns are so sharp.
This is the main obstacle to gassing.
To overcome this obstacle, the following methods can be taken proactively.
銆€銆€1. Immediately leave the angry scene and provoke your angry person, find a quiet place to read a book or do something else.
This is called “evasion method.”
銆€銆€2, find a close friend or other person you trust, tell him (her) about his inner injustice, seek his (her) comfort, grooming and adjustment, which will accelerate the process of gassing.
This is called “condemnation law.”
銆€銆€3, go to the side walk, go to the nearby park, or open the recorder, listen to a few favorite songs or music, and turn your attention to other objects, the heart will naturally gradually disappear.
This is the “transfer method.”
銆€銆€4, simply engage in your favorite skills, sing a karaoke, sway a painting, pull a piano .
This is called “sublimation law.”
銆€銆€When a very shocking and angry thing happens, it is difficult to think that it is 鈥渇lathearted鈥? Although you can’t decide what you want, you can control your emotions and your time of anger.
Let the intensity of “angry” weaken, shorten the time, and maintain a psychological balance.